Today I’m going to talk about dealing with comparison. It’s a subject that’s been on my mind for a while now and every once in a while I feel the need to write my thoughts down, here on the blog. Comparing yourself to others is something we all do, and it might be a bit of a taboo to talk about. I don’t necessarily feel that it’s a negative thing, it’s all about what you do with those feelings. So I wanted to write my feelings down and as always I’m very curious to hear your thoughts on this manner.
It is very common to compare yourself to others, we’ve all been there. Wether it’s looking up to a friend, fellow moms or your co-workers, it’s just something humans do. I’ve always been quite relaxed when it comes to this subject and focused on my own life, but of course I have my moments. A while ago I realized that in this era of social media, everything is so in your face and this is a huge pitfall when it comes to dealing with comparison. As a blogger I use social media mostly to boost my business. I am always very grateful and aware of the fact that without it, growing my business would be a lot harder. But – as with everything – there are also downsides.
With the current use of social media to grow our business, this also means we can see how other businesses grow. And what is it that we somehow always focus on those businesses that (seem to) grow faster than us? Same when it comes to our personal life: it’s so easy to only see the people that seem to have a better life. Wether it’s because their house is bigger, they have more clothes or they never seem to struggle with motherhood: it’s easy to look up to them and think they are happier.
While writing this down it feels so silly that we focus on those things, because we all know social media is just a part of those lives. We only show the part we wanna show. So let us take a moment and realize that social media is not real life. Numbers of followers don’t mean anything in real life. So when you are constantly comparing yourself to others, it’s time to reevaluate things.
I’ve only just realized that it’s the current era that makes this comparing thing so hard. Because everyone (okay, most people) only show the positive things on social media, it’s easy to think that in other peoples lives, everything ís positive.
So. What works for me is stop focusing on what I don’t have, and focus on what I do have. I have a lot to be thankful for and realizing that makes me see that I should stop comparing myself to others. I truly believe that sending out positive thoughts, will bring positive things into your life. It may not always go as fast as we’d like, but it’ll all be fine in the end. Be grateful for what you have. This is something that works very well for me, how cliche it may be. Nothing beats a negative thoughts ass as hard as a positive thought.
On another note: I think it’s really important to support each other. So when someone mentions an accomplishment on social media, let’s congratulate them. Let’s be genuinely happy for them. Beat the pitfall of becoming jealous and choose to be supportive. If it was you, you would love that people were happy for you, right? So a better world start with you. Let’s do this together <3
The beautiful skirt & top I wear in the photos are by Ami Amalia – a brand that focuses on ethical and sustainable fashion. A brand I love supporting <3